STEP 1: INNER GAME-HOW TO BE MORE CONFIDENT

Quote of the day: Don't be afraid to go out there and fuck what everyone thinks - Zyzz (famous bodybuilder)

Before approaching a girls, before making friends or forming a group of friends, before becoming an entrepreneur you should work on your inner game. And let me tell you something very important: Confidence is like a muscle, if you don't work it then it will start to become smaller and smaller, but if you put a lot of effort into it, it will get stronger and bigger.

How do you become more confident?

• By getting out of your confort zone, whether the experience is a good one or a bad one, always learn from it.
• By detaching yourself from the opinion and thoughts of others. Don't let people control your emotions or feelings
• By becoming the best version of yourself everyday. Take care of your body, your health, your thoughts, relationships, your beliefs, your finances.
• By having a porpuse in life or at least be in the process of finding out about it.
• By having emotional intelligence. Know how to control your feelings and how to manage them to work in your favor
• By exposing to your biggest fears and learn to control them. 
• By not letting your ego stand in the way of your decision and actions

For me those  are probably the most important ways to start building a stronger confidence.  We will see each of those tips in more detail and give you some excersices to start working on them. 

But first let me explain the difference between EGO and true CONFIDENCE

Your ego is like a balloon, it can be inflated or disinflated and is DEPENDENT ON EXTERNAL FACTORS THAT ARE NOT IN YOUR CONTROL. 

Confidence, on the other hand, can not be easily inflated or disinflated, It has strong foundations and is built over time. IT DEPENDS ON YOURSELF, ON YOUR DECISIONS, FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS INSIDE OF YOU. 

Many people confuse a very confident person with an egocentric one. While the egocentric person is going to feel bad and humilliated if someone disinflate their ego, a confident person will still remain strong and brave when facing a embarrasing or unconfortable situation. 

Excersice: What I want you to do is to be concious about how you create your own emotions and thoughts. Are they dependent on external factor? are they imposed to you? or do you decide how to react and how to think regardless of external factors? 

Example: When a girl rejects you. Do is makes you feel bad, depressed and sad? well I guess so, but the key is to control your feelings because they can't depend on external stimula. Is it your fault that she rejects you? Does it depend on you? Well partly is your fault and partly it's because you can't control a caotic world as the one in which we live in. Then the first step is to understand that you can choose what to think and how to feel. Change your thoughts and learn from your mistakes. It's not the end of the world. YOU NEED TO START TO GET CONTROL OF YOUR OWN EMOTIONS AND THOUGHTS FROM THIS MOMENT AND ON. NOW!